little things

This post is not to underplay the existence of an ordinary/"NORMAL" life/way of living...Its just that ....an ordinarily normal life is ....just wat its name says..."Ordinary"!!! A lot of ppl live their lives well....but not well enough...wats missing is that leap (sometines one giant one, sumtyms a series of small ones) from ordinary to Extraordinary (EO...from nw on...)

A lot of us miss chances/opportunities to lead EO lives just becoz they seemed so 'uncommon', or we rationalize dat 'nobody i know has dun this before /will do this' or 'it doesnt seem logical' or 'it appears risky...wat if i go wrong??' or simply, 'y be in a thin stream of minority, when i can be safe in the vast n accomodating ocean of majority'.....n so on...

Result: We tend to stick to d protective folds of the ordinary life, content with d way ur life is goin....n "thats d way it is" ---(lovely song by celine dion, btw!) n dats d way it continues to be...

How do we break dis old mould n come out brand n sparkling new??? List out things (career, habits, ways of thinking/ beliefs etc...) dat u've been doing the same way for ages now....ask yrself y r u doin them...if given a choice to change these, would u be happier or sadder; if d former, u kno wat u hv to do ...go ahead n get rid of them/change them...Merely Knowing, however, is not enuf....u'll hv to tak sum Action...ah...now dats where we develop cold feet...due to many reasons....fear of 'wat-will-happen-if-i-dont-stick-to-wat-i've-been-doin', sheer laziness, 'wat will others/society say', lack of willingness/inability to introspect n then to deal with wat dat introspection throws out..(some introspections are so scary dat we avoid introspecting ever again!!)...

We all should go thru this process of trying to re-invent ourselves once in a while....it helps us understand ourselves better...I think understanding ourselves fully is no mean task...n sumtyms much more difficult dan understanding others...(this is definitely true for me, i am sure it'll hold true for many more around the world...)

I now list down 10 things/activities/normally accepted 'norms'/ ways of living dat i consider downright banal....here it goes (in no particular order):

1. Mindless Craze to slim down n to continue to remain slim ...Remember: You are not as Fat as you imagine!!! - i'm gonna pamper myself as much as i can (as long as i remain healthy)..if ur healthy even 74 kgs at d age of 27 is not overweight! (oops, did i reveal my weight as on May 27, 2008?;)))

2. Getting into engineering/medicine/management/family business/ny field fr dat matter--- just becoz yr parents want u to or because everyone is doin it ...n not because U r interested in doin it...

3. Horribly mindless craze of 'settling' abroad .... a common 'escapist' n cowardly thot which emanates from every 4th person we meet..starts with 'goin abroad fr higher education' n then graduates to 'settling down there fr generations!!' - this line of thought kills me...n an entire separate post will be reserved for this topic!

4. Getting married in order to "settle" in life......Aaaaaaaargh! wat an 'unsettling' thought...

5. Preference for "own children" rather than going in for adoption.....If only most ppl think about this seriously, a lot of family-less kids will get a home n population pressures on our planet will get sum repreive!!!

6. Being in a job that makes u count days left till d weeknend or hours left before u leave for d day! now getting out of such a job this aint easy...esp. if u hv a family to support....but is merely "working to earn" enuf?

7. Lack of 'professional pride' in ny work dat u do...alternatively d "chalta-hai" attitude...

8. Getting 'into' frendships to get something 'out' of them...

9. Not having a 'BIG' reason/purpose to live for...

10. Letting petty things like greed, jealousy, hatred, ego shrink yr life...

Here's wishing an EO living to all!!